This is important after the loss of a child because the latter has a way of stripping us of our identity and our relationship to others and the world. We can feel unmoored. Feeling safe in a group can help bring us out of that trauma response brought on by the loss of a child.
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Reason#1: A Sense Of Belonging Helps Us Purge Negative, False Statements About Ourselves
We Have To Express Our Emotional Pain
Safety And Support Precede Healing
My Coach’s Support Meant The World
I was able to express myself for months before AND many months after Maddie’s death. My coaches even adopted an elephant, Nabulu (see actual picture of her above), on my behalf, in honor of Maddie. She and I had gotten matching elephant tattoos with their trunks entwined into a heart 3 months before her death.
Reason#2: A Sense Of Belonging Helps Us To Heal Our Nervous System
Our Body Needs To Be In A Healing State
Consequences Of Trauma And Stress
Affects Our Sleep
If you wake up continually through the night with racing thoughts, or if you have a hard time falling asleep, or both, not getting enough sleep has a HUGE negative effect on our quality of life.
Affects Chronic Pain, Illness & Injury
Most of us can’t relax around our pain (it’s like a loud siren that can’t be turned off), which creates more pain and anxiety. This is another vicious cycle. If we are relaxed, the pain has a much better chance of moving through the body.
It’s Harder For Caregivers To Heal
The Maladaptive Stress Response (MSR)
Our nervous system still registers a threat as a reaction to stress overload and trauma even though it’s not warranted.
Loving Support Regulates The Nervous System
It’s Ok To Prioritize Us Now
This may sound selfish, but I’d anticipated losing her for so long, that I was emotionally drained. Watching her suffer was incredibly difficult and anxiety-producing; I felt hopeless to do anything about it.
It’s Ok To Ask For And Receive Support
Reason#3: A Sense Of Belonging Indirectly Helps Everyone We Love
Our Energy Is Contagious
Beware Of Getting The Scraps
Let’s Give Our Family A Break