In this blog, we explore what gaslighting is, how it works, 3 signs you’re being gaslighted, and the importance of leaving such a relationship and setting healthy boundaries. Though very difficult, it’s also empowering and necessary for self-preservation. Hear Jackie’s story and how she was gaslighted by her husband to see if you can relate. If you want support in healing from the trauma of gaslighting and divorce, register below for The Heal Your Heart Retreat.

The Shockwave
The Assault
The Heartbreak
The Big Defense–It’s All Your Fault
The Numbing
What Is Gaslighting?
How Does Gaslighting Work?
Gaslighting is an insidious form of abuse that can be hard to detect, although it was blatant in Jackie’s case. It’s a type of emotional abuse that slowly erodes one’s self-esteem and sanity. The abuser makes one question thier reality, sanity, worth and memory. They do this by denying their abusive behavior, lying about what happened, or discrediting one’s memories and perceptions. The victim becomes so uncertain of themselves that they can no longer effectively function in the relationship. They lose all trust in themselves.
3 Signs of Gaslighting
- Your partner constantly denies doing something that you know they did. They tell you that you’re crazy for thinking they did something, or that you’re imagining things.
- Your partner tries to control what you do or who you talk to. They may start calling all your friends and family members and asking questions about you, or try to isolate you from them.
- Your partner constantly puts down your accomplishments or belittles your opinions.
The Effects of Gaslighting
Leaving an Abusive Marriage to a Gaslighter
Leaving an abusive marriage can be one of the most difficult things a person can do. The abuser will manipulate someone into thinking they are crazy or making up the abuse. This leaves them feeling isolated and alone. The fear of not being believed can keep them trapped in the abusive relationship.
How to Set Boundaries After Leaving an Abusive Marriage
Leaving an abusive marriage can be one of the hardest things you will ever do, but it is also one of the most empowering. Deciding to leave is the first and foremost boundary. You and your kids, if you have them, deserve to get a new life in which you feel respected, loved and protected.

How to Set Boundaries After Leaving a Gaslighting Relationship
Leaving an abusive marriage can be one of the hardest things you will ever do, but it is also one of the most empowering. Deciding to leave is the first and foremost boundary. You and your kids, if you have them, deserve to get a new life in which you feel respected, loved and protected.