Importance of Inner Healing for Women Leaders and Entrepreneurs
When you’ve done your own inner work, you increase your ability to stay calm. Your calmness helps keep others calm, and when that happens, you have peaceful productivity and much more fun.
Understanding Mindful Leadership
One of the key components of mindful leadership is to be respectful of other human beings and different viewpoints. Treat them like you would someone you really care about. Truly give them the benefit of the doubt. People tend to live up to our expectations of them. Our beliefs become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The benefit of mindful leadership for both leaders and team members is to connect with each other. When you feel close and connected, your trust in that person increases. I have found where there is trust, anything is possible. You become much more creative and resourceful when it comes to idea generation and problem resolution. And it just feels good to be around people you feel connected to.
When you are mindful of the present moment and curious about what’s really going on for you and others, with blameless discernment, it makes you a great leader. People feel safe, held and supported by you. Who couldn’t use more of that?
4 Strategies for Mindful Leadership
We each have different experiences that form our unique personalities. No one can really know what someone else has gone through and what makes them tick.
We come with a set of biases about who other people are. We judge them. For example, you may not feel safe with “straight shooters,” who tells it like it is and seem insensitive. Or maybe, if you’re more direct, you don’t feel emotionally safe with those who are more passive-aggressive.
If you had a microscope into another’s past, their behaviors and attitudes would make sense. To mindfully communicate, you need to know your audience. It’s always a good idea to have empathy for what others might be going through. If all you remember is that people have good reasons for feeling, thinking, and acting as they do, this will help you develop empathy and better communication skills.
Try to be as clear about what you want and need as possible. Often we don’t clearly communicate because we’re afraid of hurting the other person’s feelings. Keep in mind though that not being upfront in the present will often have more damaging consequences down the road.
Action Step: To actively listen, don’t think about what you’re going to say next. Instead pretend that you are going to be quizzed later or better yet, repeat back what they said. This makes others feel really heard and understood.
2. Compassionate Leadership
If you are leading a team in your corporate job or in your business, it’s important to bring compassion.
Your employee, co-worker, virtual assistant, independent contractor, vendor, and yes, even your boss, is a human being with needs, wants, loves, longings, disappointments, fears, joys, just like you.
They are imperfect, just like you and me. When you bring this understanding and subsequent treatment of them, you bring compassion. Your relationships will flourish and develop, and everyone will be so much happier and more productive. Retention will improve as morale does.
Action: Pause and think of each team member as your mom, dad, sister, brother, favorite cousin, etc. Think of each person as someone who deserves to be valued, respected, and loved.
3. Intention and Self-Awareness
There is a lot going on in the world that could cause you to NOT be self-aware and to escape your feelings. Unfortunately, anxiety and stress are here to stay. How you confront these difficult feelings is the game changer.
It all starts with your intention. Do you want to experience a different reality than your current one? Do you really? Self-awareness can be a bitter pill to swallow because you might discover some things about yourself that you’ve not wanted to see. Who likes to acknowledge that they have some messed up beliefs that are perpetuating their suffering? Nobody.
When you stop resisting that which you naturally want to repress (like grief, pain, deep fears about our unlovability, etc.), you begin to see yourself through a whole new lens of self-forgiveness, compassion and empathy. However, it’s like clearing a thick forest and can feel tedious.
Once you get a glimpse of your true nature, and love yourself with all of your baggage, staying present in the moment will feel less daunting.
Action: Become aware of your thoughts, feelings and body sensations as one observing your reality. You can do this by acknowledging your feelings and breathing through them, rather than resisting them.
When you integrate mindfulness and intuition, you make better decisions. For example, if you are mindful that one of your employees has a child with special needs, and they clock in 15 minutes late because they were up all night with their son, you could use your intuition to decide how to handle the situation.
Because you’re living mindfully and in touch with your intuition, you’re able to discern if this employee is telling the truth, or perhaps exaggerating the situation. And if you determine they aren’t being forthright, you could ask them to sit down with you and talk about it.
“Hey, John, having a child with special needs has to be very stressful. Is there anything I can do to support you through this? You can always talk to me, and we can figure things out together.”
This isn’t coddling John and enabling his excuses and rationalizations. Rather, it’s seeing him as human and holding him to a standard of accountability that will develop him into the highest version of himself.
Action: Take a few minutes to get grounded before you begin your day. This could be watching the sun rise, putting your bare feet on the ground, sitting in quiet meditation and breathing, reading some comforting literature, journaling your feelings, etc.
When you are grounded in the present moment, you’ll be more in touch with your intuition. Trust your intuition to make the best decisions.
When you mindfully communicate with those you work with, bring compassion to each situation, stay present to your difficult feelings by breathing through them, and bring your intuition to your decision-making, you increase your positive impact as a mindful leader.
Your workplace culture, productivity, and employee well-being will drastically improve because YOU changed. It all starts with you.
If you’d like support in becoming a mindful leader, register below for my next healing cirlce. Being a mindful leader begins with healing the issues of the heart. Yes you heard that right. These underlying issues of the heart define your identity, and until you begin to see yourself through a new lens of enough-ness, you won’t have the impact you know you could have as a leader.
Life Coach for Intuitive Women Leaders