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Workaholic: Addicted or Admired?
What are some signs that workaholism is negatively affecting you and others around you?
- Do you feel guilty that you prefer doing tasks over spending time with people you love?
- Are you uncomfortable being intimate with others (in other words, you don’t let others get too close to you)?
- Do you avoid deeper connection with others because you fear they’ll hurt and disappoint you?
- Is work your “comfort zone?“
- Do you stay at work to avoid difficult relationships at home?
- Does someone close to you complain that you don’t make enough time for them?
- What impact is working long hours having on your significant relationships?
- What effect is excess work having on your health?
- Do you allow yourself vacations or adequate down time to recharge your battery?
Origins of Being a Workaholic
Parents Role Model Work Ethic
How did your parents role model work for you? Personally, both of my parents have workaholic tendencies. My dad was always working, and when he wasn’t working at work, he worked at his hobbies. He tended to his horses, showed them, took care of them, etc. He rarely sat down to dinner or TV or conversation with the family. To this day, he is not a fan of conversation.
Parents Role Model Lack of Trust/Intimacy
We Wear A Mask
We Put a Wall Around Our Heart
How Can You Stop Being a Workaholic?
2. Forgive yourself. You didn’t create these habits to hurt you or others. They developed out of a need to survive, to protect yourself. So be gentle on yourself when becoming self-aware.
3. Love yourself. You don’t control what others think of you, but you can begin to see yourself in a compassionate, loving light. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Be your own loyal coach or cheerleader…your own Loving Self-Advocate, as I like to say.
5. Be yourself. When the trust between you and others is re-established, you allow yourself to be you and them to be them. This is how relationships get repaired.