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We Will Lose Everything
We Don’t Know How To Grieve
We Don’t Know What To Say To Others Grieving
Types Of Grief
Reasons For Grief (And Many More)
- Loss of someone or something we dearly love (child, spouse, parent, friend, pet, etc.
- Loss of our identity due to the loss of some foundational support system (divorce, job loss, move, etc.)
- Feeling abandoned deep in our soul
Losing Someone/Something You Love
Loss Of Identity
- Be aware we ARE grieving. Most people aren’t conscious of this, unless it’s a recent obvious loss or change.
- In the early stages of grief if we’ve just learned about someone’s death, let’s focus on simply breathing and staying with ourselves, not abandoning ourselves despite the pain. This helps to regulate the nervous system so it can process more information when we are ready.
- When ready, do the grieving work, to process and release the pain so that we can function.
What Is The Grieving Process?
- Activate the part of our brain that is wise (the sage brain) and thus create a safe container, calming our nervous system.
- Do this by being present to the moment, such as any of these following ways: lightly rubbing our fingertips together, breathing deeply, focusing on sights, focusing on sounds around us, etc.–anything that brings our attention to the present moment.
- Investigate our feelings. Allow the grief and pain to move through us by inviting the thought and memory causing the pain.
- Deeply appreciate exactly what’s present for us right now with deep love and gratitude for what’s been and is no longer here.
- Determine what action is needed, if any, as our sage will see what’s really going on.