This is the third in a series of 9 articles and videos in which I want to dive deeper with you about what it
means to be a Worthy Self-Advocate (WSA).
The structure you can expect:
1) Definition of WSA (as a reminder).
2) Name the attribute we’re working on for that week, in this case, Organized, Not Rigid.
3) Examples of the extreme of one side, Rigidly Organized.
4) Examples of the extreme of the other side, No Structure.
5) Example of WSA actions, somewhere in between.
So what is a Worthy Self-Advocate (WSA)? This is my term for someone who does his/her best to
relate to themselves and others with courage, authenticity and kindness.
The WSA gives herself the benefit of the doubt, not to justify selfish choices, but to remind her of her own innate worth. They know they are enough.
This week let’s talk about the attribute of Organized, not Rigid (the ideal practice of the WSA).
On one end of a continuum lies the extreme of Being Rigidly Organized. Do you see yourself in these
One Extreme: My physical environment (including my home, car, computer and phone files) is rigidly organized. It takes a lot of my energy and activity to maintain my environment because I have to control others’ behavior to maintain it.
a. My obsessive/compulsive need for cleanliness and organization is a distraction that becomes more
important than getting more challenging, higher-priority things done first.
b. Keeping the house clean takes priority over spending quality time with my family.
c. Needing my environment to look a certain way (like checking emails to keep a clean inbox or
checking Facebook for current happenings) prevents me from doing income-producing activities first
because these other things are the path of least resistance.
On the other end of the continuum lies the extreme of No Structure. Do you see yourself in these examples?
Other Extreme: I have little or no structure or organization in my environment, which drains my energy because I feel guilty about my disorganization and lack of taking action. My thinking and feeling that I’m wrong and guilty exhaust me.
a. I ignore my email inbox.
b. My business files are scattered and disorganized.
c. I have few systems in place for business follow-up or to manage my life in general.
d. My environment is cluttered and chaotic (i.e., laundry has piled up, dishes are in the sink, papers, magazines and mail are here and there).
e. I hoard things and have a difficult time throwing them away because I may need them some day.
Both ends of the continuum leave us feeling insecure. Somewhere in the middle of the extremes lies the WSA attribute of Organized, not Rigid. This is the direction we want to take.
a. I gracefully maintain a well-organized environment without having to rigidly control it and exhaust myself. I’m really not attached to how it looks and would be okay no matter.
b. People (including myself) feel safe, relaxed and comfortable in my space because it’s tidy, but not
perfect, and my energy conveys love and acceptance of others.
c. I have a simple, well-organized system/process for recording potential client, client and referral partner conversations and following up.
d. My computer and paper files are organized and up-to-date.
Do you want to confidently and passionately live life on your terms without feeling guilty and selfish? Do you want to have the most fun and meaningful experience of life and inspire others to do the same?
By becoming loyal to YOU, despite what others do or say, you get to live life inspired by your own inner wisdom, not temporarily motivated by fleeting desires for more stuff and others’ approval of you.
If that sounds good to you, come to our July 12 Frontier To Freedom workshop. We have a few seats left.
I’d really like you to be there.
P.S.: Your Freedom begins when you rise up, speak up, and show up for yourself! Is this your time?