If your teens are driving you crazy, you’re not alone!
Maybe you’re a mom or dad, grandma or grandpa, an aunt or uncle, sibling, cousin. I know some mothers who worry about their teens even when they’re at home. Are they watching Internet porn, connecting with pedophiles on Facebook who want to meet up with them, basically hooking up with the wrong crowd who can corrupt their sponge-like vulnerable minds? This doesn’t even touch on what they could be doing when they aren’t home, such as doing illegal drugs, drinking alcohol, having unprotected sex, contracting sexually-transmitted diseases, getting pregnant, getting someone pregnant, hanging out with kids who are even more lost than they are, and the list of worries are interminable.
How do you cope with all of the change that is occurring for the teenager in your life? I have two teen-aged girls, Maddie & Chelsea, soon to be 16 and 17 years old. I know they have added pressures of performing well in school, getting high scores on their ACT exam, participating in extracurricular activities, saying no to sex, saying no to drugs and alcohol, and all the while trying to figure out who they are with raging hormones running amok. If you’re at all like me, you want more than anything for your teens to become happy, well-adjusted adults. You want them to find a partner in life when they ARE READY who will treat them with love and respect. You want them to eat primarily healthy foods and take care of their bodies. You want them to pick a career they’re passionate about and make a lot of money.
Basically, you want them to have everything in life, especially the things you weren’t able to accomplish yourself. This all makes a lot of sense, and I commend you for having such wonderful intentions. The tough part about all of this is that your teens are going to make mistakes. They are going to trigger feelings in you that go back to when you were a teenager. Do you realize this is why they drive you crazy?
If you have a teen who seems selfish and immature and dishonest, they remind you of this part of yourself. This part of you still exists; it hasn’t completely matured, and nor will it until you make peace with it. So what is the best way for you to find relief and find it fast? Take care of yourself! Start tending to your own needs and desires, the ones that haven’t been fulfilled for a long time. Make yourself happy.
This isn’t selfish, and your teenagers won’t resent you for it. They want to take direction from adults they respect. If you aren’t happy and fulfilled and you are angry and resentful and bitter, then why would they want to listen to you? They love you, make no mistake. But that doesn’t mean they respect your opinion.
Listen, I know this sounds harsh. Don’t take it that way. You truly are doing your best. I still get into petty arguments with my teenagers, and if I’m tired or feeling slightly under the weather, I’m particularly vulnerable. What is more, they can sense if my energy is down and may even test me more during these times.
So it pays for me to take REALLY good care of myself, reward myself for my work as a business owner and wife and mother, don’t over-schedule myself, get enough sleep, eat healthy, exercise. Would you like more information about how you can gain immediate relief and take the sting out of your teen parenting years and intimately connect with your teens? They are still the same adorable kids you liked when they were eleven and younger. I have some keys to share with you to bring back those intimate years of parenting.
Mark your calendars for an upcoming teleseminar on February 2 at 7pm Central time, “Are Your Teens Driving You Crazy and How to Find Immediate Relief.” I’ll be sending out more details in the next few days.
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