Boundaries and self care. Two pivotal things we all need. Setting healthy boundaries for ourselves is one of the toughest things to ever do. It is also one of those things that if you begin to do it, one small boundary at a time, your self-esteem will rise. Then guess what? When your self-esteem rises, you will begin taking daily actions for self-care, such as meditating for 5 minutes, eating a little bit healthier, getting that morning walk in, praying, journaling your feelings, writing a gratitude journal, doing meridian tapping, or doing anything that helps you feel human.
Then what do you think happens? When you begin consistently doing self-care you will begin to set sturdier boundaries. It usually starts in the physical realm, like you begin to exercise, stop smoking, drink more water, eat more veggies, get more sleep, clean up your environment. Then once you get about 80% solid in your physical realm, you move on to the emotional realm. You begin feeling better about yourself and it’s no longer acceptable when others talk to you poorly, and so you say something, “Hey I don’t appreciate how you’re talking to me.
Let’s talk again when you’ve calmed down.” Next you begin to examine your beliefs. Are you still walking around believing things that you learned as a child from religions and people who told you things simply to control you, such as “Sex is bad and dirty. And if you enjoy it, you are immoral.” If so, you begin to become aware that these beliefs no longer serve you. You decide to upgrade them to ones that an adult can live with, “As long as I’m not hurting myself or anyone else, it’s up to me to decide what beliefs are right or wrong for me. Sex is healthy, and it’s okay for me to feel sexy.”
Then one day you wake up, you feel good about yourself and what you’re doing in life. Your beliefs are aligned with who you are as a person, with you as an adult, not as a child. You feel more connected to everything around you. You begin to believe that you are safe and supported in the Universe, and that there is a Power Greater Than Yourself that wants you to be happy, whole, healthy and wealthy, abundant on all levels. It all starts with self-care and setting boundaries.
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