With Self-Love, It’s NOT Our Job:
1. To rescue others or do their healing or any type of work for them.
2. To tell others how to think, how to feel, and what they “should do.”
3. To judge what is in their heart and why they do what they do.
4. To assume the worst about their choices and behaviors.
5. To continually “call others out” because this motivates them to “shoot the messenger–US.”
6. To over-give to them and devalue our time.
7. To judge or criticize others when they aren’t ready to do something different (they may never be ready).
8. To close our heart and self-protect when they blame us or disagree with us.
9. To need others to validate our worth.
Self-worth is an inside job. No one can make us feel worthy unfortunately. I wish it were that easy. No situation can make us feel worthy either. We all mistakes daily.

10. To get enmeshed in their story of suffering because we can’t do anything about it.
11. To chase or over-power others through manipulating, guilting or shaming if they don’t do as we want.
12. To take it personally when they don’t respond to us or “see” us, when we feel “ignored.”
With Self-Love, It IS Our Job:
1. To love ourselves and others where we are right now.
2. To understand and appreciate our pain and their pain as information to connect us, not ammunition, to prove ourselves right.

3. To value and love myself/others unconditionally no matter what so we can role model self-love.
4. To hold loving space for myself and others regardless of whether we’re ready to do something different.
5. To see myself and others as loving, lovable and valuable whether they acknowledge us or not.
6. To adjust OUR energy so that it aligns with love, acknowledge our saboteurs, and then turn down their volume.
7. To pattern interrupt our behavior when we realize we’ve gotten on someone else’s side of the street.
8. To arrest codependency in our personal and business relationships and take 100% ownership of our thoughts, feelings and actions without harsh self-judgment.
9. To give ourselves and others the benefit of the doubt and assume the best.
10. To not take things personally.
11. To keep our word to ourselves and others.
12. To do our very best and always be our own best cheerleader.
