Harmony Harbor CoachingGuiding Women to a Brighter Future After Divorce or Loss
Are you feeling lost and alone during or since your divorce?
- Are you afraid that the divorce will irreparably damage yourself and/or your kids?
- Do you feel too scared or hurt to make decisions and build a new chapter?
- Are you feeling stuck in guilt and/or shame as a result of the divorce?
Divorce is a trauma which can make you feel frozen, unable to move.
I know how you feel, and you aren’t alone.
I am here to support you through this valley of fear and the unknown.
Welcome to Harmony Harbor Coaching (HHC)! What makes us unique is our commitment to you in every interaction. We stand behind and support you by TRULY CARING for you, by BEING LOYAL to your Highest desires (beyond EGO needs), and by being IMPECCABLE WITH OUR WORD to you.
Change is not easy because your EGO wants you to stay the same, not feel, and you have parts of you within the subconscious mind that want to protect you, keep you “safe,” and so they don’t want you to change either.
Congratulations for finding your way to this page, because if you’ll stay here a bit, it must mean there is a part of you, even a small part will suffice, who is ready to do something different and move forward in your life, one step at a time. We take a holistic approach to health and well-being since you are more than just a body. You are an emotional, mental and spiritual being as well.
Our philosophy here at HHC is that you are a spiritual being having a physical experience. Why not make it the best experience possible? Our mission is to help you become a loving advocate for yourself, those you love, and your community. What is a Loving Self-Advocate?
A Loving Self-Advocate (LSA) is someone who remains loyal to herself. When life happens and she goes through a divorce and things don’t go as planned, she never leaves her own side. She gives herself the benefit of the doubt, trusting her decisions because she knows even if they appear to be “mistakes,” they are always meant to teach her something, to help her grow internally.
As a LSA, she is not selfish just because she puts herself first, considers her own feelings, needs and wants. To the contrary, she is much better equipped to generously give back to the world when she takes care of herself first, because she has the energy and resourcefulness to do so.
We specialize in helping women impacted by divorce (whether considering one, going through it now, or already divorced, even if it’s been years).
Why do the work? It depends on where you’re at in the divorce process.
- Leave if the time has come, due to abuse (physical, emotional or mental)–you’ll just know
- Get your fair share of custody and assets
- Set healthy boundaries with your ex, knowing exactly what to do to get your needs met in a healthy way, saying NO when you mean it
- Bottomline: To STAY with yourself and vow never to abandon yourself again
Once you do the deep inner work to transform, you’ll go from experiencing certain painful feelings and behaviors on Pain Island to Freedom Island, arriving at a new destination with a new identity, filled with hope for a bright and fulfilling future. It IS possible as long as you keep an open mind.
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Pain Island-Are You Feeling…
- Very hurt, betrayed and abandoned by the spouse wanting to leave, and at the same time very angry at them for turning into someone you don’t know.
- Like a failure and that it’s all your fault that the marriage is over and that you couldn’t make it work. Feelings of shame that YOU are not enough, are somehow bad/wrong, unlovable and undesirable.
- Selfish for wanting to take care of your own needs and desires and no longer making your spouse the focus (if you were the one who wanted to leave).
- Resentment toward the other person for trying to control you and years of abuse and mistreatment.
- Guilty, crazy and wrong for wanting to leave.
- Stuck, frustrated and insecure because you want to run away and escape, but don’t know how to put a game plan together.
- Uncertain and insecure financially because your spouse has notoriously taken care of your needs, or because you’re not sure how you will be able to make it on your own.
Painful Behaviors-Are You…
- Keeping your thoughts to yourself and isolating/not asking for help because divorce feels like a shameful stigma.
- Turning to addictive behaviors that will numb the pain and allow you to run away and escape, like overeating, drinking excessively, being overly busy with being on technology frequently or having projects going all of the time.
- Having an affair or hooking up with people who don’t respect or honor you.
- Not taking care of yourself emotionally or mentally through slowing down and being with your body and breath (i.e., journaling, meditation, emotional freedom techniques).
- Not setting healthy boundaries because you don’t believe your needs are as important as others’ needs.
If you relate to some of the above feelings, you’re in the right place at the right time. I hear you. I feel you. I see you. I understand you…because I’ve been there myself. I went through a bitter divorce 24 years ago, and due to low self-worth and being ruled by guilt and shame, I gave away custody of my only child, Maddie, totally betraying myself and Maddie.
The good news is that it doesn’t have to stay this way. There is hope. You CAN move into a different, better life, stronger in who you are, knowing who you are so that you won’t be swayed by others’ opinions of you. You will stand strong like the lighthouse. Welcome to Freedom Island!
Freedom Island-Can You Imagine
- Feeling worthy and deserving no matter what your ex (or anyone) says or does.
- Believing in yourself and taking a stand because you know who you are (YOU get to define this, not anyone else).
- Trusting yourself.
- Feeling comfortable in your own skin, mind and heart.
- Feeling good about yourself and worthy of getting your needs and desires met in a healthy way.
- Feeling grounded and confident in your choices.
- Feeling free to move forward and create a bright new future.
- Feeling satisfied and proud of your relationships.
Freedom Behaviors-Can You Imagine…
- No longer blaming your ex for how you feel and taking responsibility for your life, thus empowering yourself.
- Taking a stand for what you believe in by asking for your fair share of custody and assets.
- Taking time to do fun things like go to a spa or go on a beach or mountain vacation, relaxing in the hammock and in nature.
- Slowing down and feeling your feelings, breathing.
- Reclaiming your power from addictive substances and behaviors.
- Becoming financially independent and thriving.
- Taking time for self-care on all levels (eating healthy, limiting alcohol, drinking plenty of water, working out, journaling, meditating, tapping, reading inspirational literature, etc.).
- Loving and forgiving those who have betrayed you, reclaiming your power from them.
- Deeply connecting with those who matter the most to you.
- Becoming a Loving Self-Advocate, who advocates for herself and her kids, if applicable.