Dear Friends,
So what happens when we let go of our agenda? It feels unnatural and like there is a gap there that we need to fill in with activity. Just being has been difficult for me. Being available to the moment, to what comes next. I’m not necessarily saying not to set goals. I think the biggest benefit of goal setting is to cause us to feel uncomfortable when we set them and stir up emotion so that we then have an opportunity to reclaim our power from the negative emotion and discomfort.
I also think it’s important to set goals and then let them go, not caring if they manifest. Aren’t the best days when things just flow to us, we allow the good, we feel connected to the moments, we are present in the moment, we are Presence? When I’m attached to my agenda, I’m constantly analyzing and judging how well I’m doing. Then at day end, I evaluate if I can feel good enough? My ego will always tell me NO, because it has an insatiable appetite for more, more, more. Eckhart Tolle tells a powerful story about
a woman in her thirties who came to see him. She was very unhappy and completely identified with her emotional pain and thoughts from an abusive childhood.
He asked her to focus on the feeling inside of her body and sense the emotion directly. She began to cry, her body shaking. He asked her if it was possible for her to completely accept how she felt in that very moment. She angrily said, “No, I don’t want to accept this.” But he encouraged her to sit with the feelings and see if it was possible to allow them. After a minute or so, she said, “This is weird. I’m still unhappy, but now there is space around it. It seems to matter less.” When she stopped resisting and directly focused
on her pain, it could no longer control her. Per Tolle, “Another dimension had come into her life that transcended her personal past–the dimension of Presence.
Since you cannot be unhappy without an unhappy story, this was the end of her unhappiness…emotion in itself is not unhappiness. Only emotion plus an unhappy story is unhappiness.” Tolle had witnessed the arising of Presence in another human being. How fulfilling is that! As a coach, I have witnessed the same in myself and in others. It is what I love about being a coach! Tolle explains that, “The very reason for
our existence in human form is to bring that dimension of consciousness into this world.
I had also witnessed a diminishment of the pain-body, not through fighting it but through bringing the light of consciousness to it.” I have been experiencing more of this Presence in myself as I allow it and actually ask God/Holy Spirit to show me how to act, think, speak and feel. It is very comforting to me to know that as I live my life, I don’t have to gauge my success on how well I’ve met my lengthy agenda. Instead, I can ask if I’ve allowed more Presence to shine through myself that day. It’s not easy, but it is more fulfilling!
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Peace & Blessings,
Angie Monko,
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